The nature of female orgasm is not easily
generalized--quite possibly there are as many
kinds of orgasm as there are women having them.
Even so, in order to understand the nature of
feminine energy it is helpful to look at orgasm
from a number of angles.
Orgasm can be loosely divided into two
categories--peak orgasm or valley orgasm.
Naturally there can be a whole range of
experiences between a peak and a valley, but
what distinguishes one type from the other is
the very basis of each type--the peak orgasm
depends on an active building up of excitement
and the valley orgasm rises into excitement
through a state of complete relaxation.
From the very outset the approach and attitude
is different. We tend to actively seek and “go
for” the peak type of orgasm, to deliberately
build it up. Achieving a peak orgasm becomes a
linear, goal-oriented activity requiring a
mental intention to get from one place to
another. We assume that we need to do whatever
is necessary to keep moving toward our final
destination--the peak. A valley experience is
more like an invitation without an expectation
or demand of orgasm. Something may or may not
happen. The final outcome is not an issue,
rather the focus is on the joy of the
moment--being here and now in the body--which
allows the journey to unfold without a
predetermined direction. In place of pursuing an
orgasm there is an openness to and acceptance of
what is taking place in the body, which creates
the sensitivity necessary for an orgasmic valley
experience to emerge.
To arrive at a peak orgasm we must usually
expend considerable physical effort. The aim is
to intensify the stimulation and bring the
deliciously exciting sensations into one
glorious crescendo. This involves repeated
mechanical movements of the pelvis, which get
faster and faster toward the end. This activity
is necessary in order to build energy to a peak
but at the same time it also builds up a lot of
tension, which compresses the energy into the
genitals. In contrast, to allow a valley
experience to flower we need to do everything
very slowly in the most relaxed, languid, lazy
way possible. We avoid deliberate doing and
abandon any movements or positions producing
tensions. The penetration of the vagina by the
penis is deliberately slow, and so are all the
pelvic movements. This relaxation between the
genitals encourages a radiation and expansion of
energy into other parts of the body.
The peak orgasm is usually quite a hot affair.
In the valley things are a lot cooler. Any
pleasurable moments of excitation can be enjoyed
for what they are, but they will be followed by
minutes of relaxation, not fed and inflamed into
a climax as in the peak orgasm. Through slowing
down into a more non-doing approach and bringing
awareness to internal movements of energy, an
inner sensitivity awakens which has little to do
with excitement or stimulation. This sensitivity
reveals in the body a layer of magnetic
excitation that is cool, cellular, and ecstatic.
A buildup of excitement is not even really
required for a relaxed orgasmic experience.
Another way in which a peak orgasm will differ
from a valley orgasm is the duration of the
experience. A peak orgasm is estimated to last,
on a good day, a maximum of ten seconds. So we
can say a peak experience has a pretty definite
start and finish. This makes it more like an
event--we “have an orgasm,” or not, as the case
may be. In contrast, the valley orgasm is a more
sustained state, a timeless experience without a
specific start or finish. It can be five seconds
or five hours, the time span is irrelevant--the
experience the same. In a valley orgasm, an
ecstatic peace descends upon us, surrounds us,
embraces us, we are suspended in it--we “become
orgasmic.” It is an expanded state of
consciousness--not a momentary event recordable
in seconds.
Relaxation lies at the very base of any
enhancement of experience, so relaxation and
more satisfying orgasm go hand in hand. All
orgasms, conventional peak orgasms and
otherwise, are enhanced by relaxation. Any
relaxation of any body part (even if only
briefly) invites the expansion of energy on
which all orgasm and heightened experiences are
based. Relaxation spontaneously leads to more
inner awareness, increased bodily sensitivity,
and more psychological openness. And relaxation
automatically gives rise to qualities that are
essential to feminine energy. Especially for
woman, relaxation is essential because it moves
her away from the active outward male kind of
expression, which is required for conventional
orgasm, and puts her unquestionably into the
receptive feminine mode.
Often the effort expended in attempting to
create orgasm blocks the very sensitivity
necessary for orgasm to occur. In our effort to
“get there,” our movements become faster and
harder, more and more unconscious and
aggressive, decreasing our sensitivity with each
move we make. In contrast, an orgasmic state, or
any orgasm achieved through relaxation for that
matter, engages the genuine, deep-rooted,
feminine energies of a woman, which allow the
orgasm to be a fully satisfying full-body
experience.
Orgasm is not necessarily a huge explosion, a
volcanic eruption. It can also be a cool,
peaceful, calm, relaxing valley where the body
floats as light as a feather, dissolving into
love-drenched nothingness. It can be the
experience of eternity, beyond time, suspended
in space by breath, one with the pulsation of
life. It also happens as if by miracle, that
from this depth of relaxation a peak of energy
arises, but without any effort at all. A subtle
force rises slowly and steadily from the depths
moving into a sexual dance, as if choreographed
by a divine energy passing through the bodies.
Maurice Note: I teach a method of accessing
valley orgasms in my
private
tantra sessions and
tantra
workshops.
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